How Male Chastity and Strap-On Play Transformed Our Marriage: A Keyholder's Journey to Control and Her Submissive Husband’s Devotion

Hi everyone, it’s Addison from Caged by Desire. I’m really excited about today’s interview because it’s a chance to explore the real-life ups and downs of a couple who’ve fully embraced male chastity. Their story is so raw, honest, and, well, pretty sexy. I sat down with Sarah and Mark, who’ve been experimenting with chastity for over a year now. From cages to strap-ons, and even Locktober, they’ve built a dynamic that’s strengthened their connection and taken their intimacy to new, unexpected places.

If you’ve ever wondered how chastity could change your relationship, or if you’re just curious, this interview is definitely going to spark some interest—and maybe get you a little hot under the collar, too.

Let’s get into it!

Interviewer (Addison):

Hey Sarah, hey Mark! Thanks so much for being here and being willing to share your journey. Let’s start with the big question—Sarah, how did all of this even begin? Did you just wake up one morning and decide, “I’m going to lock up my husband’s cock”?

Sarah: laughs I get asked that a lot, but no, it wasn’t something I planned out like that. It was more of a gradual thing. I was actually scrolling through Reddit one day—totally random—and I stumbled across a thread about male chastity. I didn’t even know that was a thing until then! But something about it just hooked me. The idea of controlling when Mark could come, having all the power over his pleasure... it really turned me on. At first, I just kind of read through for fun, but the more I thought about it, the more it started to really excite me. It planted a seed, you know? So, one night, I surprised him with a chastity cage. I didn’t know how he’d react, but I was curious, and I figured we’d just try it out and see where it went.

Interviewer (Addison): Wow, that’s bold! So, Mark, when she pulled out the cage, what was going through your mind? Were you up for it right away?

Mark: Oh man, I was definitely caught off guard. laughs I had never thought about chastity before. I mean, it wasn’t even on my radar. So, when Sarah showed me the cage, I wasn’t sure what to think. I trust her completely, though, and I could tell just how much the idea excited her. That was a huge factor for me. I think her excitement made me curious enough to give it a shot. At first, I was nervous—there’s something very vulnerable about handing over that kind of control—but once I adjusted to the idea, I started to enjoy it in ways I didn’t expect.

Interviewer (Addison): That’s so interesting! It sounds like there was a lot of trust from the beginning. I’m curious—what was that first night like for both of you after Mark was locked up?

Sarah: Oh, it was so hot. I didn’t expect to feel so turned on by the control I had. The moment I locked him up, I felt this power shift, and it was intoxicating. Knowing he couldn’t just touch himself whenever he wanted, that his pleasure was now completely in my hands... it was such a rush. I found myself thinking about it all night, imagining the anticipation building for him, and it only made me want to tease him more.

Mark: For me, it was strange at first, like suddenly I didn’t have access to something that was always just... there. I couldn’t touch myself, couldn’t have that immediate release. It was frustrating, but it also sparked something else. Being denied made me think about Sarah constantly. My focus shifted entirely onto her. It was like I couldn’t stop thinking about how to make her happy. It was almost primal—this need to please her grew stronger the longer I was locked. Honestly, it was a game-changer.

Interviewer (Addison): That’s such a powerful dynamic! Sarah, how did things progress after that? Was it just a one-time thing, or did it start to play a bigger role in your relationship?

Sarah: At first, it was just this fun thing we tried occasionally, but I noticed how much more attentive Mark became when he was locked up. He was constantly looking for ways to make me happy, whether it was doing things around the house or being more affectionate. He was just there in a way that felt different, more present. After a few weeks, I started to think, “Why would I ever take this cage off?” laughs It felt like his cock wasn’t as important as the connection we had. Plus, we’d already been experimenting with pegging, and honestly, I get so much more pleasure from my strap-ons now than I ever did from his cock. It was like this shift where I started to realize that I was in control of my own pleasure—and that was a huge turn-on for me.

Interviewer (Addison): I love that! So, Mark, how did you feel as this dynamic became more permanent? Especially since Sarah mentioned pegging, I’m curious—did it take time for you to adjust to that, or were you into it right away?

Mark: It definitely took time. The idea of Sarah using strap-ons was something that pushed my boundaries at first. But as we explored more, I started to enjoy it, especially knowing how much she loved it. The longer I was locked up, the more I focused on her pleasure. It felt like the denial I was experiencing just made me more eager to please her in any way I could. And when it came to pegging, I realized that Sarah was getting so much out of it, more than she ever did from my cock. That made me want to embrace it even more.

As for the cage... the denial is intense, but in a good way. Not cumming for weeks at a time has made me so much more horny. I’m literally dripping in my cage sometimes, and it feels like every time Sarah teases me or touches me, it just ramps things up even more. Even when I have prostate orgasms, which she gives me pretty regularly, it’s different—it’s a release, but it doesn’t take the edge off. I’ll be back to dripping in the cage within an hour. That constant state of arousal is what drives me to focus on her, to make her happy, and that’s what I love about it.

Interviewer (Addison): That’s so fascinating! I don’t think people realize how much that kind of control can affect things on such a deep level. Sarah, what’s it been like for you seeing Mark in this state of constant anticipation and arousal?

Sarah: Honestly, it’s been incredible. Seeing how desperate he gets, knowing he’s so turned on just from being locked up, is such a turn-on for me. And it’s not just about sex—it’s the way he’s become more attentive to everything. I’ll come home after a long day, and he’s just there—ready to take care of me, asking what I need. It’s made our relationship so much more intimate. And yes, the sex is amazing. I love teasing him, knowing that I can give him a release when and if I feel like it. But I also love that I don’t have to. It’s all in my control.

And let’s be real, the pegging has been so much fun. I can tell he’s a little nervous when I pull out a bigger strap-on, but he always goes for it because he wants to please me. And the power I feel during those moments... it’s like I’m in complete control, and that’s incredibly empowering. Plus, it’s just hot. I get more pleasure from that now than I ever did before. I guess you could say I’ve really embraced the keyholder role.

Interviewer (Addison): It’s amazing to hear how this has deepened your connection in so many ways. Speaking of which, I want to talk about Locktober. I’ve heard it’s a big deal in chastity relationships. How did that go for you two?

Sarah: Oh, Locktober was wild! I didn’t expect Mark to get so horny just a few days in. The fact that he was locked up and couldn’t do anything about it... it made me so wet. There was one day where he was literally begging to touch me, so I told him, “If you’re that horny, come lick my pussy.” And wow, I think I had more orgasms in that one month than I’ve had in my life. He’s basically been my personal pussy worshipper ever since, and honestly, I don’t know if I’ll ever let him out again. laughs

Mark: Yeah, Locktober really pushed things to the next level. I didn’t realize how much I’d crave being locked up until then. By the end of the month, I didn’t want the cage off—it had become a part of me. The anticipation, the denial... it’s like it rewired my brain to focus entirely on Sarah. And since then, I’ve stayed locked up almost permanently. I love it. I’m so much more focused on her pleasure now, since then, I’ve stayed locked up almost permanently. I love it. I’m so much more focused on her pleasure now, and I don’t even miss the release like I thought I would. Sure, I still get prostate orgasms sometimes, but it’s such a different kind of release. its huge, and the buildup is crazy.. and the orgasm is mind-blowing but it doesn't fully finish me like a normal orgasm. It takes the edge off for a moment, but then within an hour or so, I’m back to dripping in the cage. And honestly? I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Interviewer (Addison): That’s really interesting! So, the prostate orgasms don’t give you the same sense of release as before?

Mark: Exactly. They feel good, but it’s not the same as a traditional orgasm. It’s like this momentary high while its happening then blissful afterwards, but it doesn’t fully satisfy. And that’s what keeps me so focused on Sarah. It’s like my body is constantly in this heightened state of arousal, and it just fuels my need to make sure she’s satisfied. The more I’m denied, the more I crave to serve her. It’s become part of who I am now.

Interviewer (Addison): That’s amazing! It’s like chastity has reshaped your whole dynamic and intensified your connection. Sarah, how has this affected your role as a keyholder? Do you feel like you’ve grown into it more over time?

Sarah: Oh, for sure. At first, it was just about teasing and control, but as time went on, I really started to embrace the power that comes with it. It’s addicting in the best way possible. I love pushing Mark’s limits, seeing how far I can take things. Like with pegging—I keep introducing bigger toys, and he’s always willing to go along with it because he’s so focused on my pleasure. It’s this beautiful loop of him wanting to please me and me getting off on that power dynamic.

But it’s not just about the physical stuff—it’s also changed how I view our relationship. I feel more in tune with what I want and what makes me happy, and I’m not afraid to ask for it anymore. Whether it’s teasing him for days, making him clean the house while locked, or having him fuck me with strap-ons, it’s all on my terms. And the best part? He loves it. It’s brought us closer in ways I didn’t even expect.

Interviewer (Addison): It sounds like you’ve both really embraced this lifestyle. Mark, I have to ask—after being locked up for so long, do you ever miss being able to cum? Or has that desire shifted?

Mark: It’s funny, I used to think about that a lot in the beginning. I missed cumming all the time. But now? Not so much. The longer I’ve stayed locked, the more my focus has shifted toward pleasing Sarah. The denial has rewired my brain, and now, when I think about pleasure, it’s all about her. I get so much satisfaction out of making her happy that I don’t even think about my own release the way I used to. It’s like the anticipation is its own form of pleasure. Of course, I still want to cum, but it’s different now—it’s more about her deciding when, if ever, I get to.

Interviewer (Addison): That’s such a fascinating shift in mindset! So, Sarah, are there any new kinks or dynamics you’re excited to explore together?

Sarah: Actually, yes! We’ve been talking about the idea of me opening up our relationship. The thought of me being able to sleep with other men while Mark stays locked up has been on my mind a lot lately. We haven’t done it yet, but I’ve definitely been teasing him with the idea. I love the thought of coming home after a night out, knowing I’ve had sex with someone else and then having Mark clean me up after. It’s such a hot thought, and the more I think about it, the more it excites me. I can tell Mark’s still a little hesitant, but I think, with time, he’ll come around. The denial makes him so eager to please me, and I think this could take things to an entirely new level.

Mark: Yeah, it’s something we’ve been discussing. I’ll admit, the idea makes me nervous—it’s definitely outside of my comfort zone. But the more we explore chastity and denial, the more open I’ve become to pushing boundaries. I trust Sarah completely, and I want to make her happy. I know that with enough time being locked up, I’ll probably be begging her to take that next step just to please her. It’s wild how denial messes with your head in the best way possible.

Interviewer (Addison): That’s such an intense dynamic. It sounds like you’re both in such a good place with your relationship, constantly pushing and exploring new boundaries. Mark, after all this time in chastity, how do you feel now compared to when you first started?

Mark: Honestly, it’s been a total transformation. In the beginning, I was hesitant and unsure, but now? I can’t imagine going back to the way things were before. Chastity has made me so much more focused on Sarah. I’m more attentive, more present, and more eager to please her. plus without all the porn i used to watch and time i wasted playing with myself i get so much more done. more work, more money, happier wife, what could go wrong? And the longer I stay locked, the more I crave that dynamic. It’s like my cock doesn’t even belong to me anymore—it’s hers, and that’s the way I want it.

Sarah: And I love that. Knowing that Mark is locked up, that his pleasure is completely in my hands, has made me feel so empowered. I get everything I want now—his attention, incredible orgasms, and the thrill of being in control. I don’t know what the future holds, but I’m excited to keep pushing his limits and seeing where this journey takes us.

Interviewer (Addison): You two are seriously inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! It’s clear that this dynamic has not only deepened your connection but also brought so much excitement and intimacy into your lives. I’m sure our listeners are going to be just as intrigued and inspired by your journey as I am.

Sarah: We’re so glad to share! It’s been a wild ride, and we’re excited to see where it takes us next.

Mark: Thanks for having us, Addison. It’s been incredible to reflect on how far we’ve come.

Wow! After hearing their story in such detail, I have to admit, I’m feeling a bit flushed myself. The way they’ve embraced this power dynamic, built a bond of trust, and explored their deepest desires... It’s enough to make anyone curious about what chastity could bring to their own relationship.

What do you all think about this dynamic? Could male chastity be something that would spice up your relationship? Let me know your thoughts below—I’d love to hear if this has sparked any curiosity or excitement for you, too!